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  • The Mysterious Cat Who Left Dead Flowers – What Her Silent Visits Taught Me About Grief and Release

    The Mysterious Cat Who Left Dead Flowers – What Her Silent Visits Taught Me About Grief and Release

    It started in late October, the kind of season when everything feels like it’s about to end. I found the first one on my doorstep: a wilted marigold, browned and broken at the stem, curled like it had held something too long.

    Next to it sat a cat. Black as spilled ink, with a single white streak on its chest like a smudge someone had tried to rub away. It didn’t meow, didn’t approach, just watched me with the calm of something older than it looked. Then it vanished. No sound. Just the flower left behind.

    A Pattern of Mourning

    The flowers kept coming. Always dead. Sometimes daisies, sometimes roses stripped of their petals. Once, a cluster of lavender, crumbling to dust before I could pick it up. The cat was always there, always silent, always gone before I could reach for it.

    I didn’t tell anyone. It felt too strange, too specific, like the kind of omen people mock until it’s about them. At first, I tried to make sense of it. Was it a gift? A warning? A joke from the universe? But the truth settled in more quietly: it felt like grief. Not mine exactly, but something near it. Something watching the shape of my sorrow and answering with its own.

    Things I Never Buried

    The cat reminded me of someone I used to know. Someone who left without saying goodbye, who gave me closure in the form of silence. They had a way of arriving when I needed them and disappearing just as suddenly, like a ghost who believed they were doing me a favor by leaving.

    The flowers, brittle and quiet, became mirrors. I started seeing myself in them, the parts of me I’d let go of too late, the relationships I’d stayed in too long. The promises I made in desperation and never kept.

    Every dead bloom felt like a confession I hadn’t made out loud.

    The Last Visit

    One morning, it stopped. No flower. No cat. I stood there, coffee cooling in my hands, waiting longer than I needed to. Not because I missed the strangeness, but because part of me had come to rely on it, on that soft ritual of mystery, that unspoken understanding between a broken creature and whatever part of me had gone quiet.

    The absence didn’t ache. It just felt… acknowledged. That night, I threw out the last brittle bouquet I’d been saving on the windowsill. And for the first time in months, I dreamed of nothing.

    Sometimes, the dead things we keep aren’t haunting us. They’re reminding us it’s okay to let go.

  • The Goose Who Followed Me Home One Winter Night – A Quiet Tale of Presence, Solitude, and Unspoken Connection

    The Goose Who Followed Me Home One Winter Night – A Quiet Tale of Presence, Solitude, and Unspoken Connection

    It was snowing, that light kind of snow that feels more like memory than weather. The streets were empty, save for the hum of distant traffic and the occasional crunch of my boots on salted concrete. I had stayed too long somewhere I didn’t belong, again, and was walking home in silence that didn’t feel peaceful. Just necessary.

    That’s when I saw it. A lone goose, standing beneath a streetlamp like it was waiting for someone. Its feathers puffed against the cold, its eyes unbothered. It looked at me, then began to follow.

    Strange Companionship

    At first, I thought it was coincidence. That it would stop once I passed. But it didn’t. It waddled behind me, slowly, calmly, with something like purpose. A strange kind of companionship formed in the hush between us. Block after block, we walked. No sound but our footprints, no conversation but the quiet rhythm of two beings neither lost nor exactly found.

    It was absurd, of course, a goose, following a stranger home. But I didn’t question it. Not really. I was too tired to resist being seen by something that didn’t expect me to explain myself.

    What We Carry Home

    I unlocked the front door and paused. The goose waited on the sidewalk, not trying to enter, just watching. I felt an odd mix of guilt and comfort, the kind that shows up when someone, anything, witnesses you in your aloneness without trying to fix it.

    I poured a glass of whiskey. Sat by the window. Watched it settle in the snow outside, neck tucked under wing, completely still. It didn’t ask for warmth, didn’t force its way in. Just stayed. It reminded me of people I’d pushed away. The ones who stayed nearby even when I closed the door. The ones I didn’t know how to let in, or didn’t think I deserved to. It reminded me of how solitude sometimes becomes armor, and how silence can feel safer than the risk of being loved.

    Leaving Without Goodbye

    In the morning, the goose was gone. No sound of wings, no evidence in the snow, just absence, the kind that echoes. I stood at the window longer than I needed to, as if it might reappear, as if some part of me wanted one more look.

    But maybe that was the point. Some things come not to stay, but to show you that you’re not as alone as you think. That even a goose, in the dead of winter, might choose to walk beside you for a while.

    Not every companion is meant to live with you. Some just remind you how to be with yourself again.

  • What the Dog Knew Before I Did – How Charlie Waited for Me to Notice What Was Breaking Inside

    What the Dog Knew Before I Did – How Charlie Waited for Me to Notice What Was Breaking Inside

    I used to think I was the one taking care of Charlie. Feeding him, walking him, brushing the stubborn knots out of his golden fur. He was twelve, a little slower now, but still full of quiet dignity. I rescued him when he was a pup, but lately, I’ve started to wonder if he had been rescuing me all along.

    Especially that last winter. I was going through the motions, work, relationships, routines, while something inside me quietly unraveled. I didn’t have a name for it yet. Just a restlessness, a weight in my chest that didn’t lift, even on good days. But Charlie knew. Long before I did.

    Subtle Signals – The Way Dogs Understand What We Don’t Say

    It started small. He began sleeping beside the door, even though his bed was closer to the radiator. When I came home, he wouldn’t run to greet me like he used to. He’d just sit, watching, like he was measuring the space I brought in with me. Like he could smell the shift before I could admit it to myself.

    There were nights he’d rest his chin on my knee and just stay there. Not asking for attention, not angling for food. Just present. Like he was waiting for me to stop pretending everything was fine. Charlie didn’t speak, but he didn’t need to. Animals don’t wait for the right words. They live in your energy. And mine was quietly unraveling.

    The Day It All Broke – And the One Who Stayed

    The day everything cracked was unremarkable on the surface. I spilled coffee. Missed a deadline. Read an old message I shouldn’t have reopened. It was all too much and not enough, all at once. I sat on the floor in the middle of the kitchen, head in my hands.

    That’s when Charlie walked over, not rushed, not dramatic. He curled his body around mine and sighed. A deep, knowing exhale, like he’d been waiting for this moment. For me to finally catch up to what he already knew: that I wasn’t okay, and that it was okay to not be okay.

    I cried into his fur. He didn’t move. Didn’t flinch. Just stayed. He had known. The whole time. And he hadn’t tried to fix me. He just waited for me to see it, too.

    What I Carry Forward – The Lessons a Dog Leaves Behind

    Charlie’s gone now. Peacefully. On a soft spring day, in the garden he loved to nap in. I held him as he went, whispering “thank you” again and again into his fur, as if it could possibly be enough.

    But what he gave me lives on. He taught me that presence matters more than performance. That love doesn’t always need language. That sometimes, the ones who know us best are the ones who simply stay, without asking, without needing, without trying to fix us.

    I still feel him sometimes. In quiet rooms. In the way I sit still when someone else is hurting. In the way I’ve learned to listen, not just to words, but to silences, to sighs, to soft shifts in energy. He knew, before I did. And because of that, I know better now.

  • The Butterfly That Landed on My Shoulder – How One Small Moment Taught Me to Let Go When It Mattered Most

    The Butterfly That Landed on My Shoulder – How One Small Moment Taught Me to Let Go When It Mattered Most

    It had been a long goodbye. Not the dramatic kind, but the quiet unraveling of a life built together, boxes filled with shared memories, a key handed back without ceremony, the silence after the final “take care.”

    I didn’t cry when he left. I didn’t shout. I just stood in the kitchen, holding a chipped mug we both used to reach for, and realised how many versions of myself I had packed away to make things work. I wasn’t heartbroken, exactly. I was hollow. And in some ways, that felt worse. A friend told me I should go for a walk. “Get outside,” she said. “Let the world remind you it’s still turning.” So I did.

    The Quiet Moment You Don’t Expect

    It was a weekday morning. The park was mostly empty, just a few joggers and a man throwing a tennis ball to a very bored dog. I walked slowly, my hands deep in my coat pockets, letting the chill keep me present.

    And then, it happened. I stopped near a bench under a row of still-bare trees, and out of nowhere, a butterfly, bright, out-of-season, impossibly delicate, landed gently on my shoulder. It didn’t flinch. It didn’t rush off. It just… stayed.

    I froze, afraid to move. There was no one around to see it, no camera ready to document the moment. Just me and this small, winged thing that had chosen, inexplicably, to rest on me.

    The Message in Stillness, When Life Whispers Instead of Shouts

    I don’t believe in signs the way some people do, not in every cloud or lucky coin, but I do believe in timing. In tiny, precise moments that meet you where you are.

    That butterfly had no reason to stop on me. But it did. And something about its stillness made me stop, too. I thought about all the ways I had been clinging, holding tight to plans, expectations, old hopes. I thought about how hard I’d tried to fix something that maybe wasn’t mine to fix. I thought about how tired I was of pretending I was okay when I wasn’t even sure what “okay” meant anymore.

    And then, just as gently as it had come, the butterfly lifted off and flew away. I watched it disappear into the soft light between the trees, and something in me loosened. Not everything. Just enough.

    When Letting Go Isn’t a Loss, but a Beginning

    I didn’t have a breakthrough that day. I didn’t suddenly feel whole or wise or deeply healed. But I did feel different. Like I had been given permission to release something I wasn’t meant to carry anymore. Sometimes, the world doesn’t fix you. It just sits beside you until you’re ready to take the next breath.

    The butterfly didn’t stay. It didn’t need to. It had already done what it came to do, remind me that letting go doesn’t always look like surrender. Sometimes, it looks like grace. And ever since that morning, I’ve tried to remember: even in the middle of loss, beauty can land softly on your shoulder, and ask nothing in return but stillness.

  • The Whale Who Sang at Night – How One Deep Note Helped Me Remember My Own Quiet

    The Whale Who Sang at Night – How One Deep Note Helped Me Remember My Own Quiet

    I wasn’t sleeping much. The noise in my head had grown louder than the world outside it, emails unanswered, deadlines unmet, relationships misfiring in that subtle, unspectacular way that doesn’t make headlines but leaves bruises just the same.

    So I walked. At night, mostly, with a pair of old headphones and a playlist built more from desperation than curation. I wasn’t searching for anything. Just silence that didn’t feel empty. And then, one evening, beneath the low hum of street lamps and the distant hiss of passing cars, I heard it.

    A sound so deep and resonant it didn’t feel like it entered through my ears, but through my bones. It was a whale. Singing.

    Unexpected Encounters: How Nature Finds You Where You Are

    I didn’t remember adding the track. Some field recording, probably, oceanic ambience meant to relax anxious minds. But this was different. This wasn’t background noise. This was deliberate, haunting, mournful. The whale sang long, slow notes that bent time. I stopped walking.

    In the dark, under an indifferent sky, I stood frozen as the sound filled me. And for the first time in weeks, the tightness in my chest loosened, not because anything was solved, but because I didn’t feel so alone.

    I went home and looked it up. A humpback, they said. The recording had been captured miles off the coast, decades ago. A single whale, calling out into the vast blue with no guarantee of reply. And yet, he sang anyway.

    When a Song Knows You: The Healing Power of Unexpected Connection

    Every night after that, I listened to him. Sometimes in bed. Sometimes in the bath. Sometimes, while staring at the ceiling, I wish for answers. I never gave the whale a name, but I spoke to him in my head.

    I told him things I didn’t tell anyone else. About the way I used to write poems before I worried whether they were good. About the person I loved who left quietly, as if they’d never belonged to my story in the first place. About the fear I wore under my clothes, disguised as ambition.

    And the whale? He just kept singing. Long, slow notes. No judgment. No solutions. Just presence. There’s a kind of healing in being met like that, without expectation, without urgency. Just acknowledged.

    Carrying the Song Forward, When You Remember to Breathe Again

    Eventually, the noise in my head softened. Life didn’t change dramatically; there were still deadlines, mismatched conversations, sleepless nights, but something had shifted inside me.

    Now, sometimes when things spin out again, I go walking and I play that same recording. I let the whale sing to me like he did that first night. And I remember: there’s still mystery in the world. Still connected without language. Still, something ancient and kind beneath the surface of everything.

    He never knew I was listening. But he sang anyway. And somehow, that was enough.

  • The Hedgehog’s Quiet Warning – What a Small Animal Taught Me About Rushing, Rest, and Rolling Back In

    The Hedgehog’s Quiet Warning – What a Small Animal Taught Me About Rushing, Rest, and Rolling Back In

    I met her in early spring, when the frost was still pulling back from the earth. She was small, round, and hesitant, crossing the flagstone path in the back garden like she had all the time in the world.

    I nearly stepped on her. I was rushing out with my phone in one hand and a to-do list in the other. She froze. I stopped. We stared at each other. And then, just as I began to step forward again, she tucked herself into a tight, silent ball of bristles.

    I took a step back. Only then did she begin to move again, slowly, deliberately, as if nothing had happened. I laughed a little to myself, shrugged it off. But it didn’t end there.

    She returned. Not every day, but often enough to be noticed. And always, when I was moving too fast, too loudly, she’d curl up again, her silence more striking than a shout.

    A Soft Refusal That Spoke Volumes

    She became my unexpected mirror. Not with judgment, but with clarity. If I stormed into the yard talking to myself, muttering frustrations, hurrying to trim or fix or control, she vanished. Curled. Gone.

    But if I moved slowly, left my phone inside, wandered with intention instead of impulse, she stayed. Ate. Breathed. Shared space with me.

    Her warning wasn’t harsh. It was subtle. A quiet refusal to participate in chaos. She didn’t need to fight or flee. She simply stopped. And her stillness asked me a question I wasn’t used to hearing: Why are you always rushing?

    Learning to Slow by Watching Stillness

    Over time, I adjusted. Not just in the garden, but in everything. I noticed when my voice rose unnecessarily. When my days blurred together with noise and urgency. When I bulldozed through moments that deserved attention.

    The hedgehog taught me with presence, not performance. She reminded me that not every reaction must be dramatic. That boundary can be quiet. That stillness is a form of wisdom, not weakness.

    Sometimes, just rolling into yourself is enough to signal: Not now. Not like this. And sometimes, that pause is all it takes for the world to soften around you.

    The Warning I Now Carry With Me

    By summer, she stopped appearing. Perhaps she moved on. Perhaps she didn’t need to return.

    But the lesson stayed. Her quiet warning echoes in me every time I feel myself tipping into overdrive, when I’m tempted to rush through a conversation, dismiss a small joy, or override my own need for rest.

    She didn’t preach. She didn’t ask me to change. She simply showed me what happens when we make too much noise around what deserves quiet. Now, when I sense myself charging ahead blindly, I pause.
    I remember her stillness.
    I curl inward, breathe, and wait until I’m ready to step forward more gently.

    Some wisdom doesn’t arrive in words.
    Sometimes, it rolls into a ball at your feet and waits for you to notice.

  • The Raven Who Left Feathers – How One Bird Taught Me to Notice the Quiet Things That Change Us

    The Raven Who Left Feathers – How One Bird Taught Me to Notice the Quiet Things That Change Us

    It appeared on the windowsill one morning. Black, glossy, curved like a question. I didn’t think much of it at first, just a stray feather, maybe dropped mid-flight. I brushed it aside and continued my day.

    But the next morning, there was another. In the same spot. Clean, whole, still as a sentence waiting to be read. By the third morning, I stopped dismissing it. The feathers arrived with impossible precision. No mess, no scattered down. Just one, each day, placed like punctuation.

    And always, the raven nearby, watching from the gnarled walnut tree, head tilted slightly, as if asking whether I was paying attention yet.

    When Silence Speaks Louder Than Words

    I never saw her deliver the feathers. Only the results. But her gaze stayed with me. Calm. Knowing. Unhurried. It felt less like being watched and more like being witnessed.

    I began to keep the feathers in a glass jar on my kitchen counter, though I wasn’t sure why. I told no one. How do you explain a bird leaving you gifts with the precision of poetry?

    They weren’t ordinary feathers. They carried something in them, a stillness, a weightless presence. When I held one in my palm, I could feel myself breathing differently. Slower. Deeper. As if I’d been called back to something I’d forgotten.

    Not a message in language, but in attention. In quiet.

    Feathers as Reminders, Not Rewards

    One morning, I was in a rush, phone buzzing, coffee burning, mind racing. I didn’t check the sill. I didn’t look up at the tree. I forgot.

    That day, there was no feather.

    And something in me sagged. Not with guilt, exactly, but with awareness. Like missing a call you didn’t hear ring. The world hadn’t punished me. The raven hadn’t disappeared. But the rhythm had paused.

    I walked out to the walnut tree that evening. The raven was there, of course. She said nothing. Did nothing. But she was there.

    So I stood still. I listened. I apologised, not in words, but in posture. In presence. The next morning, the feather was back.

    What the Raven Left Me With

    She stayed through winter. Left feather after feather until the jar was full. Then one day, she didn’t come. No feather. No silhouette in the tree. Just air and silence.

    But by then, I didn’t need the feathers to remember what they had taught me:
    That not everything important arrives with sound. That presence isn’t loud. That a life can be altered by a bird who asks nothing, gives quietly, and vanishes without warning.

    Now I notice different feathers, the way sunlight catches dust, the warmth of a mug in my hands, the space between thoughts. All quiet. All messages.

    The raven left me reminders, not answers.
    And in her absence, I’ve finally learned to read them.

  • The Spider’s Web Across My Path – A Story of Patience, Presence, and Quiet Persistence

    The Spider’s Web Across My Path – A Story of Patience, Presence, and Quiet Persistence

    It started on a Tuesday. I was walking the same worn path from the back gate to the garden shed, coffee in hand, half-distracted, thinking about meetings and deadlines, when something brushed against my face. I recoiled instinctively, blinking into the low morning light.

    There, stretching between a branch and the corner of the old fence, was a web. Nearly invisible unless the sun hit it just right. I waved it away with a grimace and went on.

    But the next morning, it was back. Rebuilt. Same spot. Same fragile threads stretched with defiance across the narrow path. And again the next morning. And the next. What began as a nuisance slowly became a ritual. I started walking slower. Watching for it. Expecting it.

    A Masterclass in Rebuilding

    I never saw the spider at first. Only the aftermath of her effort: a radial symmetry of silk, glittering faintly in the breeze. No bitterness, no hesitation. Just another web, spun with the kind of dedication most of us only dream of.

    She didn’t argue with the wind. She didn’t complain about destruction. She built. Quietly. Constantly. As if each thread were an act of faith that the world would hold.

    One morning, I crouched beside the web and finally saw her, tiny, amber brown, tucked in the center like a still breath. Her size made her resilience more stunning. I thought of all the things I’d abandoned after one setback, one criticism, one failed attempt.

    She spun. She persisted. I watched.

    The Lessons We Don’t Choose but Need

    The spider never asked to teach. I never asked to learn. But there we were, passing each other in a kind of silent apprenticeship.

    Her web became a symbol, a living metaphor stretched across my day: that beauty doesn’t need permission, that effort isn’t always rewarded the way we expect, but it matters all the same. That you can be delicate and still determined. Quiet and still powerful.

    She didn’t wait for ideal conditions. She worked with what was there: rain, wind, careless humans. And each day, I paused. I noticed. I whispered something like thanks.

    Carrying Her Web Within Me

    Eventually, the season changed. Mornings came colder. The webs stopped appearing. I missed them more than I admitted, those thin strands that forced me to slow down, to bend, to see. But the lesson stayed.

    Now, when I hit resistance, when the world knocks down what I’ve worked for, I remember her. The spider on the fence. The patient architect. The quiet persistence. And I start again.

    Because sometimes, the most powerful lessons don’t come from people.
    They come from the things we walk through without noticing.
    From threads we didn’t expect. From webs we didn’t mean to find, but now carry with us, invisible and strong.

  • The Elephant Who Remembered Me – A Tale of Memory, Presence, and Being Seen Without Words

    The Elephant Who Remembered Me – A Tale of Memory, Presence, and Being Seen Without Words

    I hadn’t planned to go back. Not really. But time has a way of folding over itself, and a work trip brought me within driving distance of the reserve where I’d once spent a summer volunteering, twenty seven years ago. I was nineteen then, full of ideas and ignorance. All I’d wanted was escape. What I found instead was connection, with animals and a quieter version of myself.

    One of them stood out. Her name was Marula. She was the youngest of the herd and endlessly curious, trailing after me during feeding rounds, curling her trunk around my water bottle, flapping her ears like she understood every word I said.

    I hadn’t thought of her in years. Until I stood at the old fence line and saw her, larger now, of course, towering and weathered, but unmistakably her. Something in her posture shifted. And then, impossibly, she walked straight toward me.

    More Than Memory – Recognition

    There were other visitors that day, snapping photos and whispering facts they barely understood. But Marula stopped a few feet from the fence, lifted her trunk, and let out a low rumble, a sound I remembered from warm mornings spent in silence beside her. A sound that wasn’t random.

    I said her name, uncertain. She blinked slowly, then tapped the earth with one foot, the way she used to when I brought bananas hidden in my coat. A keeper nearby looked stunned.
    “She doesn’t usually come that close to strangers,” he said.

    I wasn’t a stranger. Not to her. And in that moment, I wasn’t one to myself either.

    Her gaze held mine. Something ancient passed between us, something more enduring than time or distance. It wasn’t just that she remembered me. It was that she remembered who I had been. Before titles, before responsibilities, before forgetting.

    When You’re Seen Without Explanation

    There’s something deeply humbling about being remembered by a creature who owes you nothing. Who doesn’t need to pretend, or flatter, or follow convention? Marula didn’t care about the years that had changed me. She didn’t ask what I’d become. She simply saw me, as if the boy who had once fed her mango slices was still right there, underneath the adult I wore like armor.

    I stayed by the fence longer than I planned. She didn’t leave. We just stood there, breathing the same slow air, old souls in a new chapter. Eventually, she turned back toward the trees, the rest of the herd waiting.

    She didn’t look back. She didn’t need to.

    Carrying the Memory Forward

    I drove away changed, not in the obvious ways, no major life decisions, no dramatic resolutions. Just a quiet internal alignment, like something had clicked back into place.

    Sometimes we spend so long becoming who the world expects, we forget who we were before we were watched. Before life asked for proof and performance.

    Marula didn’t ask for anything. She simply remembered. And in that, she gave me back a piece of myself I hadn’t realized was missing.

    Not every reunion comes with words. Some come with rumbles, with silence, with eyes that say: I know you. I still do.

  • The Donkey Who Didn’t Move Forward – A Tale of Presence, Patience, and the Courage to Pause

    The Donkey Who Didn’t Move Forward – A Tale of Presence, Patience, and the Courage to Pause

    It was late afternoon when I found myself on a narrow dirt path, halfway between two villages, sun thick in the sky, and dust clinging to everything. I had borrowed a donkey from a neighbour to help carry supplies, simple things, mostly: rice, oil, a few old books. She was an old creature, grey with patches of white, slow but steady. Until she wasn’t.

    Without warning, halfway up a mild slope, she stopped. Just… stopped. Not in exhaustion, not in panic. Just refusal. I clicked my tongue. Pulled the rope. Bribed her with fruit. Nothing. Her eyes were half-lidded, not angry, just… resolved. And in her stillness, I found myself stranded, not just physically, but mentally too.

    The More I Pushed, the Less She Moved

    Frustration came quickly. I circled her, waved my arms, and muttered under my breath. I imagined the villagers watching from afar, smirking at my helplessness. The harder I tried to make her move, the deeper her hooves seemed to settle into the earth.

    There was no logic. No injury. Just a quiet, absolute no. And maybe, somewhere deep inside, I understood that no wasn’t about defiance, but about something else entirely.

    Eventually, I sat down in the dust beside her, arms on my knees, sweat rolling down my neck. I stopped fighting. The path, the schedule, the expectation, they all faded. It was just me, the donkey, and the wind through the acacia trees.

    The Wisdom in Stillness

    She stood there for nearly forty minutes. Neither grazing nor shifting. Just being. And in that space, stripped of movement and mission, I realised how rare it is to stop without guilt. To rest without planning the next step. The donkey had no timeline, no pressure to perform. She didn’t apologise for her pause.

    I watched her in silence, finally matching her pace. Breathing slower. Thinking less. And then, with no cue, no drama, she lifted her head, took a few casual steps forward, and continued walking as if nothing had happened.

    Carrying the Lesson Home

    We made it to the village just before dusk. No one asked why we were late. No one cared. But I cared, because something subtle had changed.

    Since that day, I’ve carried with me the lesson of that stubborn, silent pause. Sometimes, the refusal to move isn’t a failure. It’s a form of wisdom. A message to slow down, to notice the dust, the sky, the breath in your chest.

    In a world that worships forward motion, it takes courage to be still. And sometimes, the creature we think is holding us back is the one quietly teaching us how to move through life with more presence.